Comments on: Desi Connection http://ruhii.com/2008/04/17/desi-connection/ views-perceptions-reflections Thu, 04 Dec 2008 23:39:45 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=MU hourly 1 By: Ruhi http://ruhii.com/2008/04/17/desi-connection/#comment-28219 Ruhi Wed, 12 Nov 2008 03:02:01 +0000 http://havetoremember.wordpress.com/?p=515#comment-28219 Indiapat- Thanks for your comment! I'm sorry to hear about your experience. I know what you mean about weekends- they are precious and mostly reserved for house work etc. But this doesn't mean that we need to be THIS rude. I've spent lots of Sat/Sun helping people who needed some sort of an assistance. But yeah, given a choice, I would have stayed in my bed. :) I'm fortunate that I don't have any desi bosses at work. I don't like working with desis much...when it comes to dealing with other desis, they forget all about professionalism and get down to regionalism. :) Someone told me "To work in US IT Industry, you have to know Telugu!". I was like, "Uhhh...WTF?? What did you just say?" Indiapat- Thanks for your comment! I’m sorry to hear about your experience. I know what you mean about weekends- they are precious and mostly reserved for house work etc. But this doesn’t mean that we need to be THIS rude. I’ve spent lots of Sat/Sun helping people who needed some sort of an assistance. But yeah, given a choice, I would have stayed in my bed. :) I’m fortunate that I don’t have any desi bosses at work. I don’t like working with desis much…when it comes to dealing with other desis, they forget all about professionalism and get down to regionalism. :) Someone told me “To work in US IT Industry, you have to know Telugu!”. I was like, “Uhhh…WTF?? What did you just say?”

]]> By: indianpat http://ruhii.com/2008/04/17/desi-connection/#comment-28204 indianpat Tue, 11 Nov 2008 01:54:00 +0000 http://havetoremember.wordpress.com/?p=515#comment-28204 I have been 4 years here in the United states of America. 2 years for my Masters in US and 2 years working. Yes, I have been dealing with Desis. Let me list you my encounters. a. The first day i entered the airport, Desis (Indian student association) were waiting to pick up. A gujju senior rudely asked me are you more or alone. I said alone sir, He said OK wait here. No response for the next 2 hours. Finally a desi senior arrived and picked me up and told me we generally dont pick up single guys but you are lucky today...RIGHT. b.Arrived in the campus, I had booked an apartment from India. We wanted to know the address. A couple of desis were walking. My senior stopped them and asked the address. They replied Rudely No idea and told today is sunday so forget anyone else helping. My senior laughingly told me "WELCOME TO AMERICA and welcome to experiencing Indians in America" c. OK Roommates, the less said about the desi Roommates the better. A couple of them kept fighting with their parents day and night and speaking such language i would not use it with my dog. (Anyways its their life right?). Roommates, one of them was quite abusive (I mean he hit me badly 4-5 times in 1 semester i remember). Anwyays I managed to get very few desi friends and thankfully I was happy with that. (though i did manage to make a lot of Chinese and american friends who surprise surprise were nice people). d. Out of college and back to work. In work I had a Telugu lady as my Boss. She was 30 something, Had an american accent, drenched in body perfume (the ones ou know who wears), and was a huge flirt. Apparently I and she didnt tick off from day one (I guess she realized I wasnt interested)...For 2 years I had the toughest time of my life and she played games giving promotion to people who came an year after me or so... I have been 4 years here in the United states of America.

2 years for my Masters in US and 2 years working. Yes, I have been dealing with Desis. Let me list you my encounters.

a. The first day i entered the airport, Desis (Indian student association) were waiting to pick up. A gujju senior rudely asked me are you more or alone. I said alone sir, He said OK wait here. No response for the next 2 hours. Finally a desi senior arrived and picked me up and told me we generally dont pick up single guys but you are lucky today…RIGHT.

b.Arrived in the campus, I had booked an apartment from India. We wanted to know the address. A couple of desis were walking. My senior stopped them and asked the address. They replied Rudely No idea and told today is sunday so forget anyone else helping. My senior laughingly told me “WELCOME TO AMERICA and welcome to experiencing Indians in America”

c. OK Roommates, the less said about the desi Roommates the better. A couple of them kept fighting with their parents day and night and speaking such language i would not use it with my dog. (Anyways its their life right?). Roommates, one of them was quite abusive (I mean he hit me badly 4-5 times in 1 semester i remember). Anwyays I managed to get very few desi friends and thankfully I was happy with that. (though i did manage to make a lot of Chinese and american friends who surprise surprise were nice people).

d. Out of college and back to work. In work I had a Telugu lady as my Boss. She was 30 something, Had an american accent, drenched in body perfume (the ones ou know who wears), and was a huge flirt. Apparently I and she didnt tick off from day one (I guess she realized I wasnt interested)…For 2 years I had the toughest time of my life and she played games giving promotion to people who came an year after me or so…

]]> By: Pink Imp http://ruhii.com/2008/04/17/desi-connection/#comment-26804 Pink Imp Sat, 05 Jul 2008 19:21:57 +0000 http://havetoremember.wordpress.com/?p=515#comment-26804 Interesting post :-D I am sorry to read of the experiences that you've had :-/ I think your line "the US brings out the worst in Indians" holds good to the extent that you define What Indians (educated or not ;-) ). I'm sure not all of the diaspora here in the USA is as evil and mean :-) Etiquette is the fruit of good breeding and so no spatial or temporal shifts along time can induce or increase well-seasoned civility levels ;-) You might like to hear of some funny desi hinglish (Bad English and this college town have hereby been declared as man and wife :D ) Desi Boy (DB): Email me when you will came to school. Desi Girl (DG): Are you IN job? Have a fun weekend! Interesting post :-D

I am sorry to read of the experiences that you’ve had :-/

I think your line “the US brings out the worst in Indians” holds good to the extent that you define What Indians (educated or not ;-) ). I’m sure not all of the diaspora here in the USA is as evil and mean :-)

Etiquette is the fruit of good breeding and so no spatial or temporal shifts along time can induce or increase well-seasoned civility levels ;-)

You might like to hear of some funny desi hinglish (Bad English and this college town have hereby been declared as man and wife :D )

Desi Boy (DB): Email me when you will came to school.
Desi Girl (DG): Are you IN job?

Have a fun weekend!

]]> By: amreekandesi http://ruhii.com/2008/04/17/desi-connection/#comment-26605 amreekandesi Tue, 17 Jun 2008 04:15:17 +0000 http://havetoremember.wordpress.com/?p=515#comment-26605 I have been through this..and felt the same way. Actually i too wrote a similar post wondering why Indians hate other Indians. Looking at the number of comments here (couldn't go through all of them) i suppose this topic does touch a nerve with people. <em>Only a desi knows another desi well. ;) That's why they dislike each other. Thanks for your comment! - Ruhi</em> I have been through this..and felt the same way. Actually i too wrote a similar post wondering why Indians hate other Indians.

Looking at the number of comments here (couldn’t go through all of them) i suppose this topic does touch a nerve with people.

Only a desi knows another desi well. ;) That’s why they dislike each other. Thanks for your comment! - Ruhi

]]> By: India - the Des Des* « La Vie Quotidienne http://ruhii.com/2008/04/17/desi-connection/#comment-26342 India - the Des Des* « La Vie Quotidienne Fri, 23 May 2008 14:36:44 +0000 http://havetoremember.wordpress.com/?p=515#comment-26342 [...] the two hour long wait meant people were chatting with one another. I imagine what I write next may make Ruhi happy. Most people in the queues were Indian or of Indian origin. But surprise, surprise, not only were [...] [...] the two hour long wait meant people were chatting with one another. I imagine what I write next may make Ruhi happy. Most people in the queues were Indian or of Indian origin. But surprise, surprise, not only were [...]

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